Glass is atready broken..

 I have gotten upset several times when thing are not happening like what I like.

 I have  been irritated several times I have planned something carefully and things go  hopeless...

The thing i can do to overcome these are



Expect  my loved one do what i really dont like

Expect my loved one to lie for some silly reason

Expect my loved one to never understand my feeling towards him



Expect things to happen not according to the plan.

Expect people to be rude sometimes.

Expect the life wont be favourable to me...


Expect the recruiters to not send the offer letter for months after interviews......

Expect the fact that the life may not be a bed of roses to me .....


Expect the glass to break.

And accept it.

I won’t change these  facts they will happen even if. And if I expect it to happen even see it as already happening, before it happens  I won’t get so upset.

I won’t overreact. I will respond appropriately, but not overreact. I can talk to the person about their behaviour, and ask them kindly to consider my feelings when they do this … but i won’t get overly emotional and blow things out of .

I will only smile, and be forced to think, “I expected that to happen. The glass is already broken. And I have to  accept the fact .”


But  still i know that all I  said above are really hard  to expect and tears are expected to fall now...  :-(

Wedding day gift to my hubby

We have noted with another year
We come upon another mile stone dear
I am glad to have my sweetheart near
I am blessed to have you in my life..


I have enjoyed each day with you
Every day with its joy and happiness
We might fight every now and then
We are learning each other together..

The journey together does matter the most
The journey together with sharing and caring
The place I want be is in your heart
There is security and peace in your embrace..

I can cope with what life brings
As long as i have you with me
Your love is all I ever wanted
Your love is all I never want to loose...

I love you and Always I will............

Do you feel like crying

I will expect the answer "No" from everybody .

When do I feel like  to cry?

Is it anybody's fault or mine?

Everybody has their own "true"s. So I cant put blame on others for not understanding me. They may think that thay are right.My hidden or untold dislike to somebody will always sustain inside me as a scar. So  i think it is better to avoid contact with such people. That is what i am doing now.

Next comes anger. For me my tears over rule my anger when the root cause of my anger is my loved ones from my family.( My parents,syster & hubby). But for others the anger  only rules over. I have been trying to find out a reason for this. May be because the right cause of anger is "frustration".


When do I feel like to cry?

•  Being taken away my happiness of the moments ,which i want to enjoy,  by anybody's unwanted interfearence

• My feelings are not being understood

• Being misunderstood

• When small small wishes does not happen(not for the big ones )
• Moments through which i find difficult to handle is being taken up and getting over it by somebody.
• Whensomebody take me for granted.
• When my words are not being considered 
• When being alone for long hours
• When I feel  avoidence
• When i feel my inability to help even if i want to
• .....

Rest of this sometimes be continued in the upcoming posts

Happiness

    Here is a quote by John Stuart Mill "Those only are happy who have their minds fixed on some object other than their own happiness on the happinesof others, on the improvement of mankind, even on some art or pursuit followed not as a means, but as itself an ideal end. Aiming at something else, they find happiness by the way." I have been thinking for long time  how to find out happiness always...     But I have not find out.    I think it is because the way i think.. If I want to be happy I should forcefully agree with others ideas , make them happy first and there by be happy.  With my own perception  I cant be happy. Because Even if it make me happy It may not work for others and thereby me too.. There comes the idea of positive thinking.....I have read a lot about positive thinking..What I felt is positive thinking can make only others happy..Not us..It gives me frustration after wardsBut still is an acceptable way to happiness    .. I am still searching a way to pursuit happiness...    

One more recipe

Thenga chammandi(Coconut chutney)


Ingredients

1. Coconut - 1cup
2. Chuvannulli (Button onion) - 5 nos 
3. Red Chilly - 4 or 5
4. Tamarind ( soaked in water) - as per taste
5. salt - to taste
6. Curry leaf
7. Ginger(not necessary)- 1/4 inch 

Put all the ingredients in the mixer jar and grind it till we get a semi solid mix.Take it out and mix it well with a spoon. Serve it  with hot rice

Recipie for a lazy day

Cherupayar thoran  (Moong dhal dry with coconut)


Ingrediands

1. Grean gram(soaked over night)or sprouted - 1 cup
2. Water-2 cups
3. Grated coconut - 3/4 cup
4.  Jeerakam - 1 tspoon
5. Turmeric-1/4 tspoon
6. Red chilly-2
7. Curry leaf 

Method

Cook the grean gram in water. Dont over cook it. While coking it, Put  ingradients 3-6 in a mixie jar and grind it till all ingedients mix together.(dont over grind it). Add this mix into the cooked green gram and cover the mix with the cooked gran gram,cook it in low flame for 1 minute or till the water gets absorbed. Add curry leafs and mix it all together without mashing it. Cherupayar thoran is now ready to serve.

(If you want you can garnich it with heated coconut oil, splutterd mustard and small onion  and curry leafs in it)

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